Know your worth
A teen’s self-esteem is fragile. It can easily be damaged by a difficult friend, a tough teacher, or a critical parent. Criticism and a common tendency to compare herself with others can lead to questioning her self-worth and her abilities. However, with strong self-esteem, a teen will have the confidence and courage to try new things, set and achieve goals, and maintain a positive attitude towards herself and others.
The following are my favorite affirmations to share and explore with my teen clients:
1. I am learning from my mistakes.
Mistakes are valuable teachers. They show us what we can do differently, and they illuminate a new, better path forward.
2. I am capable of positive change.
Every day, every moment provides an opportunity to make a different choice. Start by identifying what you want to change, what actions you can take, and then take a small step in that direction. You have the power to create the life you want.
3. There is no such thing as failure, only growth.
Like mistakes, failure is a valuable teacher. It provides important information to help us learn and grow into the best versions of ourselves.
4. Life is happening for me.
Everything that happens, happens to teach you what you need to learn or point you in a direction you are meant to go. Stay aware of how life is supporting you.
5. All people who come into my life can teach me something.
Instead of seeing your teacher as annoying or a friend as disloyal, ask yourself what they are teaching you. Perhaps they are teaching you how to be compassionate, understanding, or a loyal friend.
6. Comparison steals my happiness, so I celebrate differences.
Recognize that when you are lost in the tunnel of comparison, it tends to breed self-doubt and feelings of not-good-enough. Shift your comparison into admiration and celebrate the differences between you and others. Let those who you compare yourself to, inspire you to learn, grow, or change in a positive way. No one is better than you, we are all different
7. There are many roads to success.
Remember that success means different things to different people. Your success will look different from my success, and how we get there will also be different. There is not just one right way, there are many right ways.
8. My body supports me.
Instead of judging your body, work with it. Honor it for the life that it gives you and the activities it allows you to do. Think of it like your own best friend and treat it the same way, with kindness, caring, and love.
9. Trust the process.
Instead of driving yourself crazy with “why?” and trying to figure everything out, allow yourself to trust the process. You will know what you need to know when you need to know it. Life is unfolding exactly the way it is meant to.
10. Nothing is permanent.
Everything is changing. Every day is different, every moment is new. When in a time of stress or struggle, remember that it won’t last. When in a moment of joy and bliss, savor it! Be grateful.
Your teen can learn how to apply these self-esteem affirmations to her everyday life through a personalized coaching program. To learn more about the benefits of teen coaching, contact me.